Why comparing ourselves is a direct threat on our happiness
In life, we have a natural tendency to compare. Compare ourselves to others. Compare our present to our past. Compare our place in society to society as a whole. Compare our bodies, ours spouses, our houses, our cars, our jobs, our happiness, our health and our wealth. It’s often how we gauge success, by measuring it up against something. Whether that be another person or our own expectations. The problem, however, is…
COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY
Comparison naturally puts the spotlight on what we don’t have and what others do have. Or, what we don’t have that our past selves expected us to have or to achieve by now. However, we don’t take in to consideration that comparison is often biased, presumptuous and based largely on speculation. The conclusions we reach are not based on hard data, they’re emotional.
Those constant comparisons are snap judgements that rob us of the ability to enjoy our own successes on our own terms. They rob us of the ability to enjoy the present moment for what it is rather than what we think it should be.
OUR PLACE IN THIS WORLD IS TOTALLY AND ENTIRELY UNIQUELY OURS. NO ONE ELSE LIVES THE EXACT SAME LIFE. THERE IS NO CLEAR CUT PATH TO A JOYFUL, ABUNDANT LIFE. IT IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING.
What if we looked around at everything we already have and focused our attention on that rather than constantly thinking about everything we THINK we need or what everyone else has that we don’t? What if we stopped comparing and started defining our success based on our own definition and merit? What if we chose to celebrate the success of others rather than wallow in our own pity? What if we embraced our unique path rather than pigeon-hole ourselves in to society’s expectations?
The beauty of the matter is that it’s all a choice.
WE CAN CHOOSE TO LET GRATITUDE FILL US UP OR LET COMPARISON DRAG US DOWN.
The moment we choose gratitude is the moment our lives feel like enough, no matter what everyone else is doing. That in itself is worth celebrating.
Hello, I'm Michele
While taking pictures is what I do for a living, this website is not about photography or making money. It’s about my perpetual pursuit of a life well-lived and my desire for people to live with less stress and more joy. This website is not about HOW TO achieve XYX, it’s about HOW I achieve XYZ (along with the myriad of thought processes that get me there). If it motivates you too to be better, than I’m really glad you’re here. I believe the world would be a better place if we all spent more time bettering ourselves rather than judging others.
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